Giving Your Child’s Emotions a Safe Space-An Alternative to Time Out

If you’re struggling with disciplining your child, you may have already tried using “time out” to resolve unwanted behavior. Time out has been a popular tool since the 1960’s, but studies have shown that time out is not always effective for every child. According to Mary C. Lamia on www.psychologytoday.com, young children may see time out as a form of punishment, which is not the goal for our little learners.  As parents and caregivers, we want our discipline strategies to teach and guide our children to positively handle their emotions. If you are like many who have been unsuccessful with the use of time out, here is a strategy you can implement at home or in your classroom.

Rather than asking our children to stop their emotional outbursts, we should teach them what their emotions are and how to handle them. Let them know that crying is ok because it helps release those negative feelings. Create a safe place in your home, that can serve as a welcoming area for your child to handle their emotions. Include pillows, stuffed animals and pictures to direct your child to positive things they can do to regulate their behavior.

Discuss this space with your child. Show them what they can and can’t do in this space. (i.e. it’s ok to feel sad, tired or angry. You can scream, cry or just take a break when you’re upset, but you must do that in your safe place. You cannot hit, throw or make others feel bad when you’re upset).

Be consistent and assertive when implementing this strategy. Be sure that this space is reserved for your child while remding them to use their safe space.

Teaching young children that it is ok to feel all types of emotions and what they can do to handle it is our main goal as parents and caregivers. We want them to learn what to do in life, rather than reprimanding them for what not to do. Not only is positive guidance effective in dealing with direct behavior, but it also gives them the opportunity to take charge of their emotions. By doing this, they begin to recognize their feelings and, as they grow, they will know what to do in every situation. 

Tips on how to protect yourself from the Flu:

Flu viruses can vary from mild to severe; common symptoms are:

 

·         Fever or fever-like chills                * NOTE: not everyone with the flu will have a fever

·         Cough/sore throat

·         Runny or stuffy nose

·         Muscle or body aches

·         Headaches

·         Fatigue

·         Vomiting and diarrhea; though this is more common in children than adults

 

What do I do if I get sick?

 

Most people with the flu possess only a mild illness and do not require medical attention or antiviral medication. In the event that symptoms begin, one is advised to stay home and avoid contact due to contagiousness.

 

·         Wash your hands often with soap and water.

·         Try to avoid/limit close contact with other persons. This is how germs are spread!

·         It is advised that you stay home for at least 24 hours after your fever is gone.

·         Cover your nose and mouth with a tissue or other discard-able items when you cough or sneeze.

·         Avoid touching your eyes, nose and mouth.

·         Clean and disinfect surfaces and objects that may be contaminated with germs.

 

The CDC recommends that antiviral medications are to be used early to treat people who become progressively ill and/or high risk of serious Flu complications due to age or a high risk medical condition.

 

When and why to get a Flu shot?

 

As long as flu viruses are prevalent it is never too late to receive one. In addition to protecting yourself, getting vaccinated also protects people around you; including more vulnerable persons like infants, older people, pregnant women and people with chronic health conditions. Flu vaccinations are still the best way to prevent flu illness and flu complications. In the event you become ill after receiving the vaccination your symptoms and altogether illness will be milder than not getting the vaccine at all.

 

Flu vaccines are offered by many doctor’s offices, urgent care clinics, health departments, pharmacies or you can visit the https://vaccinefinder.org/.

Learning Starts With Your New Year's Resolutions

In a society that ‘re-boots’ itself every New Year’s Eve, it’s hard not to ask. . . “why”?

New Year’s resolutions to be made. . .then forgotten!

Is there any value in this repeated annual ritual? What value is gained in assessing yourself? The act of setting goals and then, potentially not meeting them.

We need to start with the assessing. The value of the New Year Resolution lies in the annual review. Spending time assessing our successes and struggles creates a space to think about more than our day-to-day existence. So we start our year with review.

Then we must plan! We need to decide where we want to go in the New Year. Setting goals helps us develop hope and helps us establish a future we have control over. Goals creates a plan.

Finally, we must act! Goals have been set, and now it is time to do. Once goals are put into action there is either success or failure. The failed goal still achieves an action; a new review.

Plan - Do - Review

One of the foundations of learning lies in the learners ability to plan, act and then review those actions to make new plans. Young children who develop this ability succeed.

How can you help your child learn these steps of success:

  1. Create goals with your child. Family goals to be accomplished together.

  2. Create time to discuss the progress of goals. Make the review process natural and thought provoking.

  3. Create visuals to help your child make their goals concrete. This will make them more achievable.

Happy New Year!

How do we say "YES" for our Children?

The Possibilities of Gratitude.

Recently I learned that children, by the age of 17, have heard the word “no” 150,000 times and the word yes 5,000 times (Simon T. Bailey). Upon hearing that I wondered why a child’s ability to embrace endless possibilities is not appreciated. When we tell children “no” we interfere with those possibilities and stop them from exploring. We interfere with their promise of being anything, creating anything and their innate ability to explore freely.

Gratitude can help us with “yes!”

When we show young children that we appreciate the things around us, we have opened their minds to endless possibilities.

When we show young children how to appreciate themselves by listening to their words, and engaging in our own appreciation of their actions, we teach them possibilities.

When we show young children how to stop worrying; by focusing on the small, positive moments, we show them THEY have endless possibilities!

5 Family Tips to Combat Holiday Stress

As the holiday season sets in, it is easy for adults to find ourselves feeling overwhelmed. Below are 5 tips that can help relieve the pressure and enjoy the magic of the holiday season.

1. Keep your focus on meaningful moments

Remember that the holidays are about spreading joy and being with our loved ones. Don’t get caught up in holiday ideas on your pinterest board and expectations of others . If you’re spending too much money or feeling stressed, it’s time to take a step back. Decide which activities and traditions mean the most to you and focus on those.

2. Plan Ahead

Holiday to do lists are a yearly tradition; buy presents, decorate, cook, and visit loved ones. Be prepared and plan your holiday activities. Decorating and cooking can be progressive projects that you and your children can enjoy throughout the entire holiday season. When it comes to gifts, it’s the thought that counts. Have your children make meaningful crafts for your loved ones. Try planning ahead for these crafts to eliminate stress and hurry. Crafts made by children will be enjoyed year round. Be present in the moments so you will enjoy the time you have with those around you.

3. Combine meaningful traditions with keeping the kids busy

Adults often have a picture perfect holiday set in our minds. Remember that the holidays are about meaning and joy. Let the kids take control of some of your holiday to do list. Allow them to decorate the tree, set the table and do some baking in the kitchen. It will keep them busy and take those small tasks off your plate, which in turn, creates memories. Household chaos will be at a minimum, but your child will have confidence and memories to last forever.

4. Support the people around you

The traditions of the holidays are instilled in us as young children. Remind your children that the true meaning of the holidays is not about material gifts. Encourage your children to help with household chores and baking. Doing so will help everyone and create life long memories.


5. Do something for yourself

As parents, we are often giving so much of our time, money and energy to our family. Take some time this holiday season for yourself. Try something new in your community, volunteer to help a family in need or just enjoy a solo coffee break. No matter what you do, remember to focus on your blessings and know that all of the sacrifices you are making is something to be incredibly proud of.